WHAT IS IT THAT
EVERY MAN
WANTS AND NEEDS FROM A WOMAN?
What is it that
every man wants and needs from a woman? Today, the great majority of opinion is
that marital problems are sexually motivated. But I have found that usually
sexual compatibility is not the real problem in marriage. Sex is simply the
battleground. The real problem goes much deeper. Do not misunderstand me.
Sexual relationships in marriage should be highly valued. EVERY MAN NEEDS FOR HIS WIFE TO BE HIS LOVER, REALLY HIS LOVER.
The more passionate she is, the better. You ladies ought never to be prudish
and cold with your husbands. The Word of God gives very plain instruction in
this matter. The Apostle Paul tells us, "Marriage
is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled" (Heb. 13:4). "Let the husband render unto the wife
her due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto her husband. The wife hath
not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath
not power over his own body, but the wife" (I Cor. 7:3-4). He admonished
the aged women to teach the younger women "to
love their husbands" (Tit. 2:4). If you would be a good wife, learn to
please your husband well in making love to him.
But men want and
need much more in a wife than a good sexual companion. EVERY MAN NEEDS AND WANTS HIS WIFE'S REVERENCE. A wife should
reverence her husband and be in submission to him in all things. The Word of
God requires a woman to do so; and it is impossible to build a happy home until
this reverence and submission is given by the wife toward her husband. Ladies,
speak well of your husbands. Praise them, encourage them, and honor them with
your speech. Don't ever belittle him, either in private or in public. Don't
even do it in jest. If you will show reverence toward your husband, both in
your speech and in your submissive obedience to his desires, it is very likely
that you will receive the love and tenderness you desire from him. I have never
yet seen a woman who reverenced her husband and was in subjection to him fail
to have a happy home. EVERY MAN ALSO
NEEDS FOR HIS WIFE TO BE A FAITHFUL HOUSEWIFE. I do not say that a woman
should not work outside the home, or that you should have no outside interests.
But the Word of God does teach that the primary, principle sphere of a wife's responsibility
is in her home. Nothing pleases a man more than for his wife to keep a neat,
clean home, spend some time preparing a good meal, and put forth some effort in
preparing special treats for him. If you want your husband to come home at
night, give him a reason to do so. Spend your days making your home, and he may
spend more of his evenings with you in it. And
EVERY MAN ALSO WANTS AND NEEDS FOR HIS WIFE TO BE CONTENT. A loving husband
will give or do most anything within his ability to make his wife happy. But,
ladies, learn to be content with what he is able to give and do. Don't ever nag
him about what you do not have, or what you wish you had. And don't ever
compare him with other men. Learn to enjoy that which God has given you. Be
industrious and thrifty, and your husband will love you for it. If you will
learn to live within your means, so that your husband doesn’t have to work just
to pay the creditors, it will make life much happier and more pleasant for both
you and your husband. Do you want to build a happy home? Perhaps if you will
follow these simple guidelines, you can do so. If you are a good wife, it is
very likely that you will have a good husband.
Don Fortner, Pastor